I didn’t expect my life to change this week. I’m not the kind of person whose life changes instantaneously-not with a word or a moment.
I’ve struggled with things that don’t change over night.
I remember walking out of my therapist’s office the last time I saw him in December.
And I realized I had changed. I was new. It had taken a long time- over 4 years of counseling in a windowless room.
I grew up in a household where it was normal life to watch people struggle with sobriety. That too is a process that is not an overnight healing.
So this week when my life was changed I didn’t notice.
This week was meaty. From just four days of class and life I have accumulated over 30 pages in my journal of rambles and notes. I’ve sent many “oh girl” texts to friends in my life-lacking the words to articulate what was happening.
And on Thursday when all was said and done I realized I believe.
All of it.
What does that mean?
I have operated most of my life out of this weird version of humbleness and confidence. I do know who I am.
I’d just rather you not tell me.
Don’t put me up in front of a room and speak truth to me.
Please PLEASE put your attention on someone who NEEDS the strength.
I have plenty that I will freely give.
I don’t do or speak to get affirmation.
I just do.
I actually get physically uncomfortable and anxious when people speak truth about myself to me or when people compliment something I have done.
Clearly I don’t mind being the center of attention- I’d just rather be in control of the attention.
I’m really good at telling people that I’m learning to believe the words that are spoken to me.
But the thing is I don’t need to learn.
I need to choose.
I couldn’t run from affirmation this week. It shocked me and actually came from somewhere I didn’t expect.
After an intense afternoon in my head during class I went to talk to our teacher for the week (a coffee shop owning Irishman) and after a statement I didn’t think I needed to hear or had the capacity to recieve I uttered my normal “trying to believe” statement.
Then I thought- what if I chose to believe?
What if I actually believed those incredible, powerful though seemingly undeserving words he had spoken to me?
What would it change if I believed I speak truth, that I am wise, that I hear God’s voice?
What if I believe that I am indeed amazing?
Not in a cocky prideful way but being grounded in the fact that while yes, I do have the power to speak for others and spur them on that I am allowed to create something big as well?
That I no longer question my genuineness because no one else does. What if I walked in my own truth and power?
How much more could I do?
What would that change?
It changes EVERYTHING.
I’m not saying I have it all figured out-not saying I’m no longer going to struggle with things or have moments of insecurity.
But it is saying that I can utilize all of those words, those truths that people have spoken over me for myself.
(my identity map that I did with the class// #mindblown)
I’m amazingly good at speaking truth and creating hope for others
I recognize that I hear from God in many different ways
But I always thought none of that was for me. I thought I had to give it all away.
But that’s not true.
It’s for me to dream.
So when I made the decision to choose to believe in what others say I’m choosing to pick up what’s for me and run with it.
Choosing to love myself as I love others.
Choosing to believe I have something to give.
Choosing to believe means that I can change things.
I honestly believed before this week that I am not seen- not in a bad negative way- but in the way that my presence does not cause ripples on a group, just in individuals.
I believed that I didn’t need to be noticed.
I just didn’t realize that I am supposed to be noticed.
That my voice is recognized and heard.
Even in little things.
I know why I am here now.
I truly am here for more.
More than I ever actually knew existed.
The more I was searching for.
I’ll be updating my “journey with me” page because now I know why I need support.
I’m still flabbergasted.
I didn’t expect anwsers this week.
I didn’t expect to feel home amidst discomfort.
I didn’t expect that I would have even more to say then what I have already said.
I didn’t expect victory or surprise or love.
I didn’t expect much.
I didn’t expect my life to change this week.