• It all feels ugly.

    I’m currently a little scared to look at all the things I’ve swept under the rug.

    Sweeping things under the rug, shoving them in a closet, chucking them in a bag to deal with later isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes to survive you just have to do that.

    Today in church as I sat during worship this line stuck out and played in a loop for me the rest of the morning.

    “Everything you’ve lost; love’s returning”.

    Now; I’ve felt really ugly for the last year.

    I’ve tried so hard.

    I’ve tried to not be the daughter who lost her mom. I’ve struggled almost every day with that. That weight of grief. The absolute utter loneliness I’ve lived in. The feeling of not having done enough or been enough.

    I will repeat: I’ve felt so ugly.

    I have to pause and say that I’ve had the most amazing humans in my life who have held me and fed me and looked me in the face and told me that my mom would be proud of me. Friends who I hadn’t talked to in years who still check on me frequently.

    I have not been alone.

    But the deep loneliness has been hard to shake.

    And I have just had to survive.

    My word this year, the one that spun in my brain at the beginning was create.

    I tried to run from it, I tried to find any other word, but that was the one.

    And today all I could think is that all I’ve created this year has been a mess.

    I’ve fallen behind on projects, I didn’t meet goals I wanted, my room is still a disaster, I’ve barely written.

    I haven’t created anything.

    I know this year held hope, it held newness, it held camp and rocky and working with people I love.

    It held good things.

    But all I can think of is how ugly I have felt.

    How grief was so messy and tormenting and how I wanted to yell and cry and throw things.

    All I can think of is the parts of myself I’ve lost and don’t know if I’ll ever get back.

    All I can feel are the rough edges that feel like they are permanent.

    All I can identify myself as is a daughter who lost her mom.

    All I can see is what I’ve lost.

    I don’t know what higher power you believe in if you do. I don’t know if you find God tangible. Right now, I’m sitting in the back corner of this brewery, tucked in a corner, (trying not to cry and not make eye contact with the bartender who has clearly watched me cry) and I just know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God is here too (yes, God sits in breweries). And the God I know is just sitting there and being in this space with me. Which is a lot for me who’s been dealing with not knowing how to sit in a space with God. But thankfully this God meets me even in places I don’t think I’m allowed to be in.

    I don’t know right now what’s on the other side of all this.

    I don’t know if things I’ve lost can be returned.

    If the pieces of myself that I dropped to make space for pain can come back.

    I don’t know how to tie any of this up in a neat bow.

    I think what I’ve realized in the last 40 minutes or so of writing is that I can hold both life and whatever this is.

    I can hold feeling ugly and moving forward.

    And I can choose to keep speaking up instead of believing the voice in my head that I should be stronger than all this.

    Sometimes I wish I could be more poetic or eloquent in my writing. But, then I realize that’s not who I am.

    I’m just me, sitting here, peering under the rug and deciding what I actually need to keep.

    If you’ve made it this far-if any of this hits you, if you’ve felt ugly, I want you to know I’m here with you.

    That’s all.

    Let’s keep fucking going.

    With all the love,



  • Another Labyrinth reference

    Another Labyrinth reference

    I am not enough, I am not capable, I don’t hear from God and my voice isn’t needed.

    All the words I’ve had, all the words I’ve deleted, all the words that have percolated in my head over the last hour have all had the same theme.

    I am not enough, I am not capable, I don’t hear from God and my voice isn’t needed.

    And I know how that sounds, but I’m gonna need you to hold on and keep reading.

    Because at the end of the day, until we realize what binds all the awful things together in our brain we will be unable to figure it out.

    I emote for the most part a very bad ass bitch attitude. Because honestly, you just have too.

    But, when the exhaustion hits and the seasons change and memories come back to haunt us, it comes chugging down the tracks with a force.

    And if you’re wondering: that’s where I’m at.

    Exhaustion, changing into a season I’m realizing I have more against, and the memories flooding in.

    I was having a conversation with someone a few weeks ago about how I’ve gotten better at meeting situations that feel heartbreakingly similar to other seasons in life not with “but I’ve been here before” but instead “I guess I have to go deeper”.

    Because at the end of it all these phrases “I’m not enough” and “I am not capable” are not the same that they were.

    They can’t be.

    Not only am I am different human than when I met them before, not only am I stronger, but also I’ve seen some shit.

    When I first wrote this long list of all the ways in which I feel like I fall short (it was pretty damn long), I felt guilty for even thinking them.

    Not because they didn’t feel true, but because I had a momentary pause of; I should be stronger than than this.

    But that’s not true.

    I don’t need to be stronger than all the lies.

    I need to be strong enough to recognize them for what they are and keep moving forward.

    I’ve referenced this movie before, but I’m thinking of the scene in The Labyrinth where the main character realizes that the Goblin King has no power over her.

    And I wonder how frequently she had to repeat that in her mind.

    If she saw an owl, or had a moment of anger at her baby brother, or if she wanted to run. I wondered how many situations she met in her life past that where she has to tell that little voice in her head that it had no matter over her.

    (It’s now I’m realizing that lies in my head are 100% David Bowie as the goblin king)

    Because some days it feels easier to give in to them.

    How easy would have been for her to give the baby to the goblin king and live a life free from the thing that made her feel something.

    Sometimes, I don’t want to show up for myself.

    I want lean in to all the things that cause me to not be who I am and just exist.

    But, what kind of life is that?


    I don’t really know where I’m going from here.

    I have the legal pad of all the ways I currently don’t measure up.

    I have the Goblin King trying to hand me a magic crystal to take the baby away.

    Here I am though: standing my ground, speaking out that he has no power over me and choosing to keep moving forward and sitting in the muck and grief and places wherein I don’t feel I have the strength.

    If you’re still here I want to remind you that you haven’t been here before because you’re in fact a different human than you were.

    And the Goblin King has no power over you.

    With love,


  • To whom it may concern; we’re not all waiting

    I read a list on Instagram couple days ago that was entitled “What I wish I would have done while I was single”.

    I had a small inking of hope that maybe it wouldn’t be a list of things that have nothing to do with actually being single.

    Maybe it would be like “travel more. Felt less shame going out to dinner alone. Not put my entire personality into being single and waiting for someone”.

    Obviously I was wrong.

    The list had nothing to do with any of that.

    One line read “being alone is a lonely, depressing confusing and rough place to be” and to “trust god- it’s worth it”. And “He will come through”.

    Might I counter that with maybe don’t put that on single people?

    Life can be rough and lonely and depressing and confusing and while yes sometimes it does have to do with being single it’s not the whole story.

    And do I believe that God will “come through”? Yah, I guess kind of. I don’t know if I would use that language.

    I would say that I’m walking in the path that I’m supposed to and I’ll pick up the things set down for me as they come for me.

    If that’s a relationship than great.

    If it’s not-great.

    God is still “coming through”.

    I think I could go on to list more things about how problematic I feel the churches response to singleness is.

    How much we are targeted in all the wrong ways and how we feel less than on a daily basis for not being in a relationship.

    (I could easily go on a rampage about single childless woman but that’s another word for another day)

    This string of Instagram post about guarding your eyes for another person and choosing to better yourself in listening for another person and leaning on God for another person.

    You should do all that for yourself.

    There’s that moment where I realize that there are people who there whole existence is finding a partner. That they want to do all those things.

    But not all of us do.

    I honestly don’t know where I’m at in the life of relationship.

    (I would say that I’d be fine with a cat and some plants and a good library but I’m gonna be honest I kill plants)

    But at the end of the day I do want to better myself, I want to trust the spirit inside me more, I want to be kind to myself.


    To whom it may concern:

    We’re not all waiting.

    We’re not all sitting on our hands using our time to prepare for a person to come into our lives and make us whole.

    Honestly we’re not making ourselves better for someone else.

    We’re making ourselves better for our own selves.

    With love,

    A single woman

  • Simply: trying.

    I’ve been trying.

    I’ve been trying to move through my days and not let anything I’m feeling leak out into the humans around me.

    I’ve been trying to be strong.

    I think it can go without saying that I haven’t been doing the best. I’ve been trying too. I’ve been attempting to deal with this thing called grief and struggle against the voice inside my head that says I should be over it.

    I’ve been attempting to deal with feeling like not enough a lot of days of the week- like I don’t measure up and am physically incapable of doing so.

    I’ve been attempting to not feel like a third wheel- attempting to try so hard to not shut down and be an island.

    I’ve been attempting to not feel like less than- which is different than not feeling like enough- trying not to feel like my pain and grief and lack of hope makes me weak.

    I’ve been attempting to not give in to all these things.

    And it’s really fucking hard.

    I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again and again: I don’t like writing from the middle.

    I don’t like putting things out into the world that feel hopeless or lacking the spirit I have inside.

    I don’t like placing what I feel inside for everyone to see.

    But what I’ve realized is my ability to see it- to fight it- even when I don’t feel like I’m winning- that’s hope.

    My ability to show up even when it feels like it goes beyond what I’m capable of doing- that’s the spirit inside me.

    And writing from the middle? That’s me fighting.

    Choosing to write from the middle and choosing to call out the things that want me to hide and cry (which I’ll still cry- I’m only human) is me remembering that I’m stronger than I think.

    When I was in church this morning God clearly reminded me that I was built for this.

    Now, don’t get me wrong- you will never hear me state “god only gives me what I can handle” because I call bullshit.

    I’ve many moments in life but prime example: I was not in anyway shape or form able to handle losing my mom when I was only 36.

    What I am saying is that, the hard, hopeless seaming things; the grief, the singleness, the feeling lost- it may (it has) knock me down. It may push me under.

    But, I will rebuild.

    I’ve talked a lot about ruins lately. My letterboard still reads “the city will be rebuilt on her ruins” and well, to be honest, a lot of my life still feels like ruins.

    But, I’m working on cleaning it up. On finding the foundation.

    On rebuilding.

    I’m trying.

    I don’t know where you are.

    I don’t know if you feel like you’re surrounded by ruins.

    I don’t know if you feel like you don’t know what to do with your hands.

    But I do know that all we need to do is keep trying.

    I’m here with you.

    You got this.

    With love,


  • Year #1(0)

    Year #1(0)

    To the greatest Royal family there is:

    Can I just say; ain’t no tired like after camp tired when you haven’t done it for three years.

    I’m on my second cup of coffee sitting in my California home base and just starting to truly think about everything that the this past week was.

    As I shared in my devotion on Monday morning, I didn’t think I had all the things I needed. I was emotionally drained, tired, and honestly just didn’t think I had the ability to teach bible stories to kids.

    It’s felt for awhile as if I’m walking among ruins. Like my life fell apart and I haven’t started building again.

    But I was reminded that, for the most part, ruins still have a foundation.

    We were starting from scratch this year.
    And might have felt, a little bit, like we were walking among ruins.

    But, what hasn’t changed, what remained and maybe evolved, was all of our whys.

    I saw it in all of your faces as you were eagerly awaiting the kids to come up the mountain. I saw it in your dance moves at chapel and your animated conversations at meals. I saw it in the staffs faces sitting at breakfast club or helping with woodworking or walking another kid to the nurses station.

    We may have been walking among some ruins, we may have been missing a few tables and maybe a dunk tank (though did anyone really need to be in that on Wednesday?).

    At the end of the day though, the foundation, the heart of the matter was the same.

    We were there for the kids.
    And we were there for each other.

    On Monday I challenged and reminded us to be where your feet are and that you had everything you needed.
    Mostly, I was just preaching to myself.

    I’m pretty busy at camp. My desire is to always be available to help, to be present and to help make transitions from place to place be the easiest I can.

    But, knowing myself, I knew that there would be moments I’d just have to force myself to pause. One of those was on Wednesday when I sat at an activity table for 45 minutes making one of those beaded flower projects with a camper.

    Another was when I went on the zip line first and stood across the way for an hour cheering on the LIT girls and counselors.

    I could have easily not gone on the zip line, I could have easily sent someone else and then done all the logistics of getting the girls on. But, instead I looked at the girls and said, I’m scared, I don’t want to do this, but I’m going too.

    And it was amazing.

    I stood across the field for an hour listening to the LITs cheering each other on and it was just a beautiful present moment where all I was focused on was the girl coming down the zip line next.

    We all had to do some hard things this week. Maybe it was engaging with a camper or figuring out how to make something when you didn’t have all the pieces. Or figuring out a job someone else used to do for years.

    Our campers had to do some hard things this week. Maybe it was going in the zip line or calming themselves down when they were frustrated or making it across the swimming pool.

    But what we did this week was create a place where those hard things felt manageable. What we did without knowing it was show campers what they could do by us just showing up again.

    Right before the world shut down in 2020, I was in a musical. And I found out after it had gotten cancelled that my parents were going to drive up to Washington and see it. Because, to quote my mom, “She wanted to do a hard thing for her to remind me I could do hard things”.

    And I thought of that this week. I thought of it when I was having a hard time being present or when I didn’t feel capable. I thought of it when I was tired and someone flagged me down to walk somewhere with them.

    I know we all have stories and reasons why we do camp.

    This year, for me, my why was a little different. It was to face a thing I didn’t think I was capable of anymore, because at the end of the day I love and believe in those kids more than I believed in my inabilities to do the damn thing at camp.

    At the end of the day my love and belief in YOUR abilities was greater than my inabilities.

    You all inspire me and push me on more than I can even comprehend. The ways you show up and jump in and speak life and love with your actions and your words to the kids we serve pushed me on each and every day.

    I get asked a lot why I don’t just go to a camp in Washington.

    And it’s because of you all.

    You are my family.

    You are my lighthouse.

    Thank you for always welcoming me back home 💜

    With love,

    Miss Meg

  • A letter to 36

    Dear 36,

    I don’t really know what to say to you.

    As I look back through memories and pictures and words I’ve already written I’m trying to find kind things to say that aren’t seen through a filter of just trying to see the good in a situation.

    About 7 weeks after I turned 36 I got to hug my mom for what I knew in my bones would be the last time.

    Soon after that I made a decision out of necessity for my incredibly burned out self that I needed to quit the job I’d been at for a little over 6 years.

    About 5 weeks after I started that new job; my mom died.

    Now, I can say something about you 36; you set me up to make some choices before I needed to make them.

    You pushed me to make some hard decisions I didn’t want to make.

    You allowed me to make space before I knew I needed it.

    In my letter to 35 I wrote these words

    “thirty-five feels like the end of the chapter that leads into an entirely different part of the story”.

    And 36 has indeed been an entirely different part of the story.

    But to me 36 feels like one of those montages of a movie where life is just happening and you aren’t quite sure what to do.

    And then then main character opens the door and gets blinded by the sun and the fact that it’s spring again after what felt like too long of a winter.

    36 has felt like winter.

    I don’t know if I can say I’m grateful for it.

    I’m grateful for the people in my life who have showed up for me in the most beautiful, kind and loving ways and to those humans there is no way I’ll ever be able to repay you for the love and support you’ve given me.

    I’m grateful for the bright spurts of joy; like trips with friends, performing on the Lincoln stage for the first time, family shot Friday and the hilariously wonderful humans I work with.

    But I can very easily say that I’m ready for a new year of life.

    I’m ready for winter to be over.

    I’m ready to open the door and be blinded a little bit by the sunshine.

    I’m ready for you 37.

    Please, be kind.

    With love,


  • Nice is different than good

    Nice is different than good

    I’ve realized that lately I’ve gotten really bothered when people give a situation more credit than it is meant to have.

    I’m a words person (obviously) and I believe in the power of assigning meaning to something that doesn’t merit that meaning.

    Like chaos. I used to have an assistant in my classroom years ago who would say every moment of every day was chaotic. I finally stopped them and reminded them they needed to change their meaning of chaos or a simple transition gone slightly awry was going to wreck them.

    I also realize I have a high capacity for stress (which I understand is not always a beneficial thing) but it’s also helped me realize that frustrating does not equal hard or rough.

    I think in the last few years I’ve worked at trying to describe things in such a way that I can understand them.

    Giving a blanket statement to something and assigning it a word that has no descriptors isn’t helpful.

    (As an example one of my PET PEEVES in working with children is the use of the word “nice”. It means nothing to a a child. Telling a three year old to “be nice” tells them nothing what you want their actions to do.)

    When I started pondering these words this morning I had a Sondheim lyric in my head “Nice is different than good”.

    A frustrating situation is different than a hard situation.

    A stress-filled situation is different than a stressful situation.

    Choosing to start to understand what in the situation is actually hindering us instead of just giving a blanket statement and walking away.

    It’s work that feels hard.

    (And work that feels hard is different than work that feels bad).

    I’ve come to a realization that will not be brand new information to anyone that knows me well: but I’ve allowed my capacities for stress and hard work and chaos get so big they very rarely phase me.

    And when they do it’s probably already too late.

    So, right now, I’m trying to pull my bubble back.

    I’m trying to redefine what all those words look like and I’m trying to reframe how I see them for myself.

    It’s lot of work and it will involve boundary setting and it will be hard and also good.

    (See what I did there?)

    So if you needed a reminder that you are allowed to change sometime at almost 37 that you’ve operated in most of your life you are absolutely 100% allowed too.

    Deep breathes to your toes 💛

    With love,


  • The shame of falling apart

    I don’t remember when I told him this but at some point I told my pastor, that my room was a direct reflection of my mental health. And it’s something he remembers and every now and then will ask me how my room is- asking me how I’m doing in a different way.

    My room has been in disarray since August.

    August was when I came back from first surprising my parents in Kingsburg (I left with a sense of foreboding that it would be the last time I saw my mom alive) and then had been in Hawaii for a friend’s wedding for about a week.

    I was emotionally drained and on the edge of absolute physical shutdown. It was during that week in Hawaii that I realized I had to quit my job, I needed to make the leap, move on and try to breathe again.

    I needed to try to find myself in what felt like the chaos I created.

    I’ve talked about this before, but I started to breathe again.

    I emptied my closet out to go through it, I was beginning to piece by piece put myself back together.

    Then my mom died and the chaos stayed.

    The effort it feels like it’s going to take to put it all back together still sometimes feels absolutely overwhelming.

    I feel as if I had a perfect storm of grief, burnout, teaching in a pandemic, anxiety and so many other things. And I have to remember something in all of it:

    It’s going to take more than a few months to heal.

    Today in church, I was reminded by someone that I was important and that I needed to take care of myself.


    And right now, all that’s trying to run through my head are the ways I’m horrible at taking care of myself. All the ways I’ve been a bad, absent friend. The giant pile of clothes in the corner of my room, the fact my calendar still says January. The ways I’m incapable of doing enough. How I’m unable to do what people need me to do because I am fearful of crashing again.

    But, if I sit I can also see tangible ways that I am taking care of myself and I have to remember that.

    The pile of clean clothes means that I am doing laundry.

    The plate on my bedside table means I have eaten today.

    My cleaned off desk that now houses my vanity and makeup means that I am taking time to sit and do my makeup and I had to buy more moisturizer today because even if I don’t wear makeup, everyday I sit in my chair and put moisturizer on.

    I had to scrounge for shampoo because I ran out, so I’m showering.
    I had to refill my water bottle because even though I usually suck at it, I am drinking water today.

    And the tears currently running down my face remind me that I’m still allowing myself to feel.

    I’m well aware of all the ways I don’t take care of myself. I’m well aware that I’ve not been doing well.
    I’m well aware of all the ways I don’t feel like I’m showing up for the people around me.

    But with all that I have to remember the ways, even in the midst of the bad days where I don’t feel like I’ll ever feel whole again, that I’m still moving forward, I’m still creating habits that take care of myself even in little ways like putting moisturizer on my face or listening to podcasts while I get ready..

    I have to remember that it wasn’t just my mom dying. It was also the end of a time of life living in high stress. It was living and teaching kids in a pandemic. It was friendships ending.

    It was a lot.

    So, if right now, if keeping my bed and my desk clear and my floor mostly clear is all I can do, so be it. If for this season my white board calendar stays on January and I just use my google calendar, so be it. If I mostly eat bagged salads and bagels and frozen things from Trader Joe’s, so be it.

    Taking the shame out of the things I don’t feel capable of and putting the focus on doing what I can to be human, to live and to move forward in my day.

    This is hard to even say but I think I am actually proud of myself. I’m proud that I show up. I am proud that I’ve realized I actually have to eat in the day.

    I’m proud that I’ve found new ways to self care.

    I’m proud that I let myself cry,

    Because I am important and I need to take care of myself.

  • I don’t actually know how I feel about this

    I’ve been battling with technology for about 40 minutes. I’m currently in possession of two computers-one won’t work and the other I can’t find the charger too and then my ipad was refusing to open a new document and I just kind of wanted to give up and go about my day, with some banana bread making, Guinness float drinking and watching “A discovery of witches” season 3.

    But then my Microsoft word opened and I realized I probably actually needed to talk about the thing that I’ve been dancing around talking about for a few weeks.


    I’ve mentioned it here and there. Alluded to it in instagram posts and tried to come to terms with the fact that hope wasn’t going to bite me in the ass.

    This morning I wrote the following words while at church and they hit me a bit and came with the footnotes that I needed to chose to have hope in myself again and hope in life.

    Hope in its noun definition is “a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen”.

    What if hope has been so hard because without realizing it we’ve been so far on the other side of hope that we’ve been hoping for the bad things to happen?

    What if we’re so focused on the fact and the truth of life that bad things will happen that we don’t free up any space in our brain for the fact and truth of life that good and beautiful things will happen.

    Now, please don’t read that as we are somehow a part of the awful things in our life happening. (Well, we are sometimes but that’s a different story). What I’m trying to say is what if we’re putting our hope in the fact that bad things will happen so might as well not hope for the good and because of that we’re choosing to place our hope in the bad.

    I always joke that my brain is so full of children’s worship music and choral music from my whole life that I frequently have a “no room in the inn” sign up.

    I think we do that with experiences that prove to us we shouldn’t hope that the good and the beautiful will come.

    I started my new job on September 7th last year and 4 weeks later I was starting to feel alive again.

    4 weeks and one day later my mom told me she was sick. And five weeks and 3 days after September 7th she was gone.

    I had started to feel hope again. Started to feel like I was able to breath. Started to feel like I could focus on things that brought me back to myself.

    And then it all came crumbling down.

    But, I think that that was a turning point for me.

    I could have truly chosen to believe and file that away as another time where hope failed me. Where the good was coming and the. The other shoe dropped and knocked me unconscious.

    Where hope looked me in the eye and said “pass”.

    I think I’m in a frame of life where I’m desperately trying to change the way I see things about hope. I’m trying to be an active participant in what is looks like to hope for movement and good and things being built and an active participant in showing people that the only person who is fit to walk out their story is themselves. And whatever cards they’ve been handed they can pull something from them if they’re just willing to try to live a life wherein hope is for them too.

    I don’t what your level of choosing to be hopeful these days. For me, some days it’s just choosing to hope I won’t wake up at 345 and will be able to go into the day rested.

    And I know that the world doesn’t feel hopeful right now. I know that the concept of being hopeful for yourself feels trite and small.

    And I know some days it’s a no bones day and hope is not only impossible but unhelpful.

    And I know what it’s like to feel like hope hasn’t been in play for awhile.

    I just want you to know that I’m here trying to figure it out today.

    And if you need to borrow some hope from me; I will willingly share it.

    With love,


  • On being an island

    On being an island

    I just did a thing where I actually didn’t delete the 400 words I had written to write something new but I opened a new document.

    The words I was saying weren’t bad- they just weren’t it.

    The 400 words I had typed out were moreso dancing around something that I was trying not to say because even just the thought of saying the thing that’s in my head is currently making me cringe.

    Today, I feel rested.

    I had a beautiful weekend, that started just sitting and chatting with my best friend at her desk because I wouldn’t see her all weekend and those moments began a weekend where my soul and heart and all the insides of me got rested all the way down to the toes in ways I haven’t been in a while.

    (that’s not the thing that makes me feel cringy)

    And after I sat and wrote the prior 400 words that were filled with a lot of me stating that I sometimes just want to be an island, I realized that while there was truth in that, it wasn’t thing that I needed to say.

    After I wrote the prior 400 words and I realized that they weren’t it; I realized what actually was.

    This weekend I found rest, peace, hope, family and light.

    And today I realized that all of that reminded that I am a leader in the ability to give those things to others. I am meant to do that in a bigger way than I am now.

    And honestly, that terrifies me.

    I know that sounds ridiculous. That I should know that. (As my roommate Benjamin would have said to be in a text if I text him that: ThAt Is BrAnD nEw InFoRmAtIoN)

    That I’ve done it before.

    But this feels bigger. This feels more wobbly and new.

    I am the person who is going to nag you into believing in the fact that you have something to say. That someone needs to hear the things you have to say. That regardless of what you believe or who you believe in that you have hope and light and a story that the world needs.

    That you are on this earth to connect to even just one other person who needs your story.

    That, even if we desperately want to be and even it feels less painful, we are not meant to be islands.

    I am not meant to be an island (honestly I hate that sentence).

    And honestly, there is still a lot of myself that is the most epic cheerleader because being in the background just works for me.

    But I know in my knower that it’s not where I’m supposed to live.

    Have you ever had those moments where you come to a moment in time and you know that one day down the road, it’s going to be a defining moment?

    Well, this Monday afternoon on my couch just turned into one of those for me.

    This weekend I realized that God has been repeatedly telling me not to worry. He’s been reminding me that I have what I need.

    He’s been reminding me that I need to look in a mirror when I remind people that they are more than they think they are.

    I know there is more to me. I can feel it, beneath the surface. I know that I’ve spurred on a belief in myself by setting boundaries, by choosing my personhood and mental and emotional health over those who would say I didn’t do enough to earn their love. I know there is more because I’ve spent a lot of time making space for it.

    I don’t know what is next but damn. Something is.

    That’s it.
    Well, that’s not it, but it is something.
    Here’s to the reminder that we can always find pieces of ourselves when we’ve believed for a long time they are just pieces to give out- not to keep.

    (But I will always, ALWAYS, remind you that you are more than you think you are.)

    With love,