I’m quitting in 2021.
And it’s a funny thought because I worked so hard this last year to not quit. I worked so hard to show up and to be present and to work through the tears and the panic and the exhaustion.
I worked so hard not to quit my life.
I worked hard not to quit my relationships.
Basically I worked really hard not to give up this year.
And I didn’t.
I’m going to be completely honest though: I’m kind of done with working so hard not to give up.
It’s exhausting, it’s taxing and honestly it’s just not worth it.
Why would I want to fight so hard to hold something together that might not even be worth it?
Here’s the thing: I’m not sure if I know how to quit. I’m not sure I know what I need or where I’m going, but I do know that I have picked up parts of myself in the last year that I really love and there isn’t space for those things to be in the same space as all the things I need to quit.
It’s a little terrifying. Making some distinctions and drawing lines and figuring out what I want to lend my time to even more than I ever have.
It seems vague but I think that we don’t always know the path we are walking on- we just must keep walking on it.
When I was in Ukraine so many years ago spending time around a group of Nigerian med students, one of them said something that has stuck with me all these years. He was talking about how he and his peers were discussing what it would be when they left the Ukraine. He made the point to say that he wouldn’t be going BACK to Nigeria. He wasn’t the same, the place he was going wasn’t the same. He couldn’t go back to it. He could only go forward home.
That’s sort of how I feel about 2021.
I have so many things that I picked up in 2020. Some I loved, some I didn’t. I have things I lost, things I cherish.
But I’m not going back into myself.
I’m moving forward into 2021 in so many ways. The year has already started a little topsy turvy but we’re going to roll with and keep moving down the path that I’m going.
I’m quitting the things that don’t give me life. That cause me to run away from myself. That cause me to lack hope.
I’m quitting the things that aren’t me.
I’m quitting in 2021.
So…watch this space.