I want you to know I get you.I don’t understand or know your circumstances. I don’t know the deep places of your heartache.
But on a soul level; I get you.
There are a lot of times in life that dealing with a gamut of heartache sucks.
Anxiety, grief, loss, singleness, depression, estrangement.
All of those are magnified during the holiday season.
Even just finding a template for a Christmas card was a glaring reminder of my relationship status. Every template featured a happy couple, a new home, a new baby, a diamond ring.
But, this isn’t a blog about that.
It’s just an example to you.
I get heartache.
On so many levels.
And I know that yours is oh so different.
Your story, your heartache doesn’t match mine.
And mine doesn’t match yours.
But I guarantee that there are at least two people around the table with you who could say the same thing.
Who get you.
What I am trying to say is that you are not alone.
And I know that’s hard to read without rolling your eyes.
(It’s hard for me to write).
Because when you are physically alone it’s hard to remember. When you feel alone it’s hard to remember that.
But it’s true. The beautiful thing about humanity is that even if it’s just the person in front of us at the grocery store, or the barista who makes are coffee- we are not alone. We all have stories and frown lines and spots on our pillow from tears.
We just have to fight the battle to remember that.
I have to fight the battle to remember that.
So, here’s the deal: I want to challenge you.
I want to challenge you to find a new way to infuse joy into your holidays. Make a new tradition, revamp an old one.
I want to challenge you to laugh.
And be ok with laughing.
And lastly, I want to challenge you to be ok with crying. To not feel shame in telling a story around a fire.
To not feel shame in taking moments to yourself or sitting in the dark with just the Christmas tree on.
Because when there is a heartache so great that it comes to you in times of joy, I believe, for the most part, you can find joy on the other end of that heartache.
Don’t put yourself in a box of heartache this holiday season.
You aren’t defined by that heartache. You aren’t ruled by it. It’s just one of the colors in your picture of life.
It’s not all that you are.
Even if it feels like it.
And if you ever feel alone, just remember me, in rainy, blustery Bellingham. I’m with you.
I’m for you.
This holiday season will be new. It may still have heartache but if you need some I am holding some hope for you (and cinnamon sugar almond bars).