So, this isn’t something I have wanted to talk about again. It seems that there are a few topics that when they swing back into my sphere of life I desire to do everything but write about them.
I don’t really like to feel like a broken record.
But the fact of the matter is words and I haven’t really gotten along in 2k18, so I best move along with the ones that are hitting against my heart.
Before I move on I want to just leave my bottom line up here at the top, just in case you want to stop reading and go eat a taco:
Your anxiety is not a burden.
Your depression is not a burden.
Your burn out is not a burden.
Your mental health is not a burden.
I don’t know what it is with summers (well, I do but we don’t need to go into it) but this summer has been for lack of a better word; weird.
That’s been really the only word I can come up with.
Because nothing has been bad, nothing has devastated me, but I’ve been tired, drained, burnt out and much more susceptible to the anxiety that finds ways to creep up my spine.
I am surrounded by people just like me or similar to me in one way or another.
I work with people who care. You literally would not survive in my job if you didn’t care. Even the tiny humans that drive me the most up the wall occupy space in my heart.
But, what you find in my line of work is a lot of humans who don’t have the space or ability to put themselves first, you find people who want to help others, take care of others.
When I was in grad school I did a lot of research on burn out in pastors and church leadership mainly because that is what I was going to school for. And I found a lot of pieces of research, a lot of books and statistics on burn out in pastors. A lot of stats on mental health issues and breakdowns as well.
I haven’t done the research but it wouldn’t surprise me if there was the same type of findings in early learning.
And I already hear the responses, and I already can see comments being typed about needing to take care of ourselves.
Don’t you think we know?
I, personally, deal with depression, anxiety and burn out. It is not always present but it comes in waves, seasons and here and there it’s debilitating intense. But, every damn day, I show up for those kiddos. Yes, sometimes that might not be the best for me. But it’s what I do.
(The tears are freely hitting my ipad just for reference.)
I’ve been finding ways be it reorganizing my room, doing face masks, listening to pretty music, to lower my stress and to bring me back to myself.
I’m always working on it.
And I think, why I chose to write and allow my train of thought to freely take the lead is this:
Sweet lord, you my friend, in whatever you are dealing with, are allowed to deal with it.
I’m not saying to not be active. To not pursue health, to not find things that bring you joy, balance and hope.
Be as active as you can be, whether that’s calling a friend to lay on the floor with you while you cry, or bulking up your self care routine. Or getting help from someone who has a degree on the wall.
I don’t know where you are in life.
I just want you to know that we are all walking together whether we know it or not.
I want you to know that I very much have an Instagram filter on sometimes (& its 100% ok if you do too)
I want you to know I very much believe you are going to be ok.
I am going to choose to believe that all the things in life are not a burden.
I am going to choose to believe that I am not too much.
I want you to do the same.
Whether you are a stay at home mom. Or a teacher. Whether you have a corporate job or you are a pastor.
You’ve got this.
And we are here, together.