To actually sit and force myself to write- to just let words flow feels incredibly anxiety-provoking right now. But it also feels like one of those things that if I don’t sit in front of a computer and just let my thoughts out for others to read, I might be stuck on the other side forever.
I don’t want to get stuck, but I feel almost as if I am stuck in a perpetual wheel that causes me to be unable to just write. To pull out thoughts and share them.
Most days, I think, I am doing pretty ok. I am living in this new view of life with a lot of things on my brain- some I don’t really talk about (that’s the 20%) and some I don’t want to talk about because it makes me cry. I am a little bit fearful that this is just how life is now. That I am going to be sad forever and that there isn’t really anything to do to fix it. I know that isn’t the case. I know there isn’t anything to fix.
I know painful things happen and we just must keep walking in the direction that we are meant to walk.
I’m supposed to be writing a piece for the website I write for about the hope I find in choosing to trust my own balance. In choosing to know that I’ve been through some shit and that I am stronger and more capable to withstand things than I think I am.
I’m supposed to be writing about the hope I have in the strength I’ve been given.
You know that word I hate, “resilience”.
But all I want to do right now is delete the 275 words that came before this sentence.
This though is my reality.
Some days, I am truly ok, some days I’m just not and some days are like a little fruit salad of all of it.
But I don’t want to get stuck with an inability to write down my words.
I know I’ve shared this here before, but when I was little, I was so terrified to confront people when I had hurt feelings or was scared. And I would write my mom notes and tuck them in the chair she was sitting in and run away.
I’ve always used writing to communicate my emotions, articulate what is in my brain and conceptualize the thoughts that are tricky for me to decipher.
I write to untangle.
And currently, I am still actively untangling grief, untangling the relationship I had with my mom, and untangling some things that I don’t necessarily feel ready to communicate.
And I’m grappling with the fact that I don’t feel strong enough or capable enough or old enough to be dealing with any of this.
Normally, at the end of a string of words with a lot of questions, not a ton of answers, and what feels like a lack of hope I’d usually tag a PS to my mom who read every word I wrote, to let her know that I am in fact; ok.
Because at the end of the day, I am. I’m ok. I’m moving forward, I’m living. I’m just a little less than sometimes.
So, Mom, I’m ok. I’m moving forward, I’m living, I’m just a little less than right now.
And that is ok.